Relationships: It Takes Two to Tango

How much do you love your partner? How much do you willing to sacrifice? It’s time to pay more attention to this area of your life.

Whether you’re in a relationship already or you’re admiring someone from afar, sorting out your feelings can be a real challenge. While there’s no clear, fool-proof way to decipher your feelings for someone, there are certain ways to make the distinction clearer for yourself.

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Strengthening a current relationship or getting into a new one requires learning from past mistakes and applying those lessons to present or future relationships. Study your patterns and get a “do-over.” Build a foundation of appreciation and respect. Focus on all the considerate things your partner says and does.

Happy couples make a point of noticing even small opportunities to say “thank you” to their partner, rather than focusing on mistakes their partner has made. The driving force of the sexual imperative bridges the gap between the almost incompatible brain styles of the two sexes. Lust can be seen as one end of a broad continuum, which may or may not culminate in romantic love.

Love and lust are inextricably intertwined. If his partner’s only in lust, she’ll use this against him, but if they’re both falling in love, this sexuality is a bond.

With a better understanding and insight into the way you interact and communicate with your significant other, you can create a strong, successful relationship.

The reason for two willing people came out to commit an infidelity relationship because they worked together. After all, it takes two to tango.

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Higher Than Number One!

It is commonly said that “Nobody is Perfect,” so nobody can be perfect, but experience can teach you to live as perfect as possible. Why put off what you can do now, when it keeps you busy and focused? You will have more time to get back to whatever you were doing before, plus, you won’t get yelled at if you forget.

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Sometimes, we are forced to do things we hate but we felt responsible to get it done for the sake of the people we love, not only that; it happens commonly in our job. We sometimes see or experience events that make us feel terrible and we perceive these events as being wrong. But pleasure in the job puts perfection in our work.

There are cases that you don’t need to be perfect for something just to make other person like you, don’t you know that they already like you (as is) because in their eyes you are perfect for everything? You cannot please everybody, (of course) and you do not need to do so, because your principle is the expression of perfection, and as imperfect beings like us cannot practice perfection.

Do you investigate your behavior and dig beneath your anger for its source, apologize to someone so that you can both feel better and resolve to do better next time? Everyone with insight enough to admit his limitations comes nearest to perfection.

Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence. However, they who aim at it, and persevere, will come much nearer to it than those whose laziness and despondency make them give it up as unattainable.

I met a nice guy before and we had a semi-serious relationship. I was wondering why every time I accomplished something either in work or in everyday living he often told me, “I’m very happy for you, you’re higher than number one,” but then my reaction was just casual and not so curious about it, maybe because I was young and not so matured to think things for real. He even gave me a poster of my favorite, “Lord of the Rings” movie with his photo at the bottom and he wrote this again. Now, I realized how much he appreciates me but sadly he is not the Mr. Right for me, we have so many differences that I had long enough to give way until in the end I just give up.

I didn’t seek perfection for a relationship but I know before that he is not the guy I want to spend the rest of my life. The essence of being human is that one does not seek perfection like you feel much for others and little for ourselves and to restrain our selfishness and exercise our benevolent affections. Nevertheless, he thought me to do the best as I can be.

No one becomes perfect but you can be higher than number one.

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Love Knows No Distance

When do you have the luxury time together with your love ones? Is your long distance affair headed toward the same sorry fate? Do you think long distance relationship works?

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According to majority that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but many casualties of long distance relationship would beg to disagree and I can attest to that as well.

Missing someone get easier everyday because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will. The best and most beautiful things that cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart. As the days go by, the memories remain.

In a relationship, you want to be the priority but you have to consider as well the responsibility of the person you loved to their family because doubts can build and cause a whole lot of problems and jealousy can often be a figment of your imagination.

I do believed that finding a destined match (the right one) isn’t easy, sometimes you are blinded with the charming heartthrobs that keeping your attention away but by then, you are building your own experience by becoming into a strong, wise, sweet and lovable individual.

Way back 2007, I met this guy; he is my friend and colleague, I am three years older than him. Who would thought that the guy I’m talking everyday will become part of my life and fill the empty space of my heart to find true happiness despite of my stressful workload?

We started as friends and something happened inside us. He wanted me so long not as friend but he is hesitant maybe he gets busted. I think it was a love that came without warning, I was so blown away and all the good things he says never leaves my mind even I have million things to worry about.

Our relationship started and I cannot explain why I loved him as well but all I know that I want to see him always and I am enjoying his company. We are inseparable to the point that, everybody recognized the changes between the swift.

However, we both aware that relationship between colleagues are prohibited in our company, which means we need to choose whether he stay and I resign or the other way around. Despite of the consequence, our relationship gets stronger and bloomed and we decided to resign.

He is very responsible and he is the bread winner of his family after the death of his father. I got worried after we resigned because he needs to find an alternative job immediately because there is a family waiting for his support.

Our plan was to move to another city where my friends (my former students) are working but since he signed job for six month contract, I have to move first then he will just follow after. I have to establish first in a new place and find a work as well so that just in case he needs my help I have some to spare.

Our relationship is very open. It was hard to be far away of the one you love but when you think the purpose of doing so; you will feel very grateful.

Even we are a perfect couple but we are not in a perfect situation. For anything worth having one must have to pay the price – always work patience, love and self-sacrifice. No great love ever came without great struggle. We never missed to call everyday and tell our different problems, we focus to our work and wait until the day we will meet again.

We kept holding on our promises, thus distance is not the hindrance at all and for the record, we are now engaged and waiting for our momentous wedding early next year.

It is normal that sometimes we are upset but when you hear the voice of the one you love sincerely asking for an apology and understanding, then your heart gradually melt and things fall in place again. I believed those are spices of a relationship, there might be worst but you will not be given a problem if you cannot handle to solve.

If we fail to give the best of our personal self and undivided time to those who really important to us; then one day we will regret it.

Communication is very important in a long distance relationship. Distance doesn’t matter if you really love the person, what matters most is the honesty and trust for that relationship to work out. 

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