When the Tension Subside

It was a late Friday night when I arrived home being exhausted from the terrible traffic caused by undisciplined drivers in the metro highway. I was excited to meet my fiancé along with my surprise weekend getaway planned, however without my knowledge there was most disturbing news that I should know about him regarding on the status of his health.

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He is working in a famous and reputable Bank; it is a practice and guidelines of the company to conduct annual physical examination to determine if the employees are still fit to work. By him undergoing this physical examination, X-Ray was not good and their Doctor advised him to see Radiologist to seek for a second opinion about the result. He did all of the things and according to the Radiologist based on the X-Ray result from the Company he might have Pulmonary Tuberculosis (can be treated within 6 months of taking medicine) but to be sure, they will perform and test again for diagnosis.

So basically, sadness outpouring all over his veins to the unofficial result instead of waiting the official one, he presumed that it is positive already.

When he told me about the matter, I got paranoid. I was not able to hug him or comfort him but instead act like very mad and asking why it happens. He don’t smoke, no vice – perfect, where this coming from? After all; I ask myself, where is my support? I actually should be the root of his inspiration, but on that time, I never was.

Imagine, immediately he separate all his things because it was advised by the Doctor it is very contagious, and since I was his partner, I should be check as well but I don’t submit myself for checking. I’m still in the process of accepting the fact but I shall allow my intuition to guide me along. I decline to inform him with my surprise weekend getaway due to the news; there is no spirit at all. It was just all of the sudden, we are not talking and doing things separately – it seems were doomed.

It was twelve hours – no sleep, no plan, no talking, and no questions – silence. I was thinking, when the result is positive (let us say), he is the breadwinner and supporting his family always, how could he continue doing that when is on leave? All it matters – no answers.

Early Sunday on our breakfast, we talked about the situation, planning and how we going life forward with this problem and also agreed to move our wedding date. So we get going, iron out differences and apologizing for our reactions. It’s kind of we accept the situation.  This was also the day that he will get the final result from the Radiologist technician and start his medication.

I was surprised that he didn’t call me and speak about the result but due to many things happen in between I almost forgot the pressure we are dealing. I always inculcate in my mind that life must goes on – move on forward. When he arrived, one thing I asked was how much is the medicine, he replied there is no medicine for this, so I asked, why, then replied with a smile because I don’t hat Pulmonary Tuberculosis, it was a mistake diagnosis. The X-Ray was clear and it was different compared to the first one.

 The tension subsides when I heard the good news it’s kind of “let’s call for a celebration”, we have been doomed for many hours but in the end there is no truth about it. We are so happy…smile…smile and laughter. Now, everything is well according to plan and I can’t wait to share my story here because this is how I express my feelings as well.

Conclusions are not always pleasant. If you follow reason far enough it always leads to conclusions that are contrary to reason. I don’t deny we sometimes draw the right conclusions, but don’t we just as often draw the wrong ones?

After all, Life is the art of drawing sufficient conclusions from insufficient premises.

The Manifest of a Shallow Person

“Don’t judge a book by its cover” is a metaphorical phrase that has learned since from grade school. You shouldn’t prejudge the worth or value of something, by its outward appearance alone. However, why there are people speak their mind and don’t care no matter what if it’ll rip-out the heart of others?

aShallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. There’s nothing wrong with being shallow as long as you’re insightful about it. It’s a shallow life that doesn’t give a person a few scars.

Only shallow person know themselves but mostly shallow people end-up nothing.  But think about it; shallow people have it so much better because they don’t understand the same things we feel so it doesn’t affect them even how awful feeling it is.

During my teenage years; I was tired of pretending that I was someone else just to get along with my classmates, just for the sake of having friendships, not to be bullied but to bully.

When learning the rope of being with them, I thought I was trapped in a cage and I can’t handle it in their way. I was lying to myself but still I know I would always learn from my mistakes. I learned that when am surrounded with them I find myself judging others – I didn’t consider that the inside is what counts!

But after all I did, I reap confidence away from it which I used it to fight them back whenever we’ve faced into trouble. Being brave is not enough not to be bullied but being confident to pretend being brave is great ammo to defeat the enemy and win the war.

If a person cannot understand the beauty of life, it is probably because life never understood the beauty in them and don’t judge the past by the standards of today because it won’t work – they’re incompatible.

The world only goes around by misunderstanding. Where misunderstanding serves others as an advantage, one is helpless to make oneself understood.

Think twice before you speak!

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Clear Your Bladder Every Four Hours

A friend of mine forwarded me this information early today and I felt it was so very helpful informative. I thought it would be a good idea when I share this with my friends as well. Posting here is a great way of spreading this information of course.

Clear Bladder Every Four Hours!

When one is maintained regularly or for long periods can damage the bladder and kidney. When traveling, we should not continue when one needs the toilet. In fact, empty bladder every three to four hours.

ImageThe bladder is actually a muscle that sits near the kidney, these filters the blood and enter the urinary bladder with fluid and waste – so-called urine.

Bladder to an adult human can hold around 350-450 milliliters of urine. When urine contents rise to a certain level, the body reacts on how stretched my bladder has become and sends signals to the brain.

The brain responds by sending two signals back to the bladder. One says that the bladder neck to relax; while the other says that bladder muscle to draw up together in order to get the urine out. It’s time to find a toilet. The system lies under the will power, which means that we can keep us, though it is not suitable to pee right then.

produces a hormone which means that we look at less liquid when one asleep. The most imminent danger of not peeing when a need is that, one can get infections in the urinary bladder and roads.

The urethra is at any given time full of bacteria, which only host more and more, when a pee host these washed out. Host not urethra washed, the bacteria can spread out and can develop a urinary tract infection. Urinary tract infections can spread to other places if they are not treated with antibiotics.

Delay a lavatory often urinary bladder muscle vertebra limp and thin walled to always be stretched. When will the draw together not be as effective, and one does not get out all the urine when a pee.

peeWhen host the remnants left in the bladder, which increases the risk of infections. Bladder host filled up faster again, and one is maintained perhaps because a network has been in the toilet and then host the injury worse.

If one continues in the longer one can actually fill up my bladder so much, that it will never work again. Voluntary or involuntary, days without pee breaks are extremely harmful to the urinary bladder.

But there is hope. A dropped bladder can be trained again, when by going regularly to the toilet. When the bladder must work host muscle stronger. A strong urinary bladder is a good urinary bladder.

To keep the body in good health is a duty, otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear. The more we learn, the more we’re aware how our body works and can take of it. Live Healthy!

Controlling Temper Over Confidence

Things can be handled well at all times; it’s just a matter of what kind of attitude you put into it but the reward of being patience is happiness.

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Sometimes you get less appreciation, lots of blame and huge criticism despite of too much hard work you put into, this cases most probably happen at work. Getting away from a situation to drain your temper might be a good idea however sometimes pride takes over and there is a tendency that you can unreasonably get angry.

Jealousy and competition are most common ingredients of starting misunderstanding between colleagues which drives into hate and lies that creates beyond mishap.

If you’ve been bereaved, lost your job or are dumped by a partner, the chances are you may find yourself overwhelmed by fury. Don’t let your temper ruin your life even there are times when people tend to lose control of their emotions.

But instead of drowning yourself with your temper build self-confidence and prepare for success.

Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it, sadly; this can be a vicious circle. People who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful.

How confident do you seem to others?

Well, your level of self-confidence can show in many ways by your behavior, body language, how you speak, and what you say.  Now look at what you achieved, think your strengths and think about what is important to you and where you wanna go and then manage your mind.

Trying to be cool is not enough but being confident is perfect. You can achieve of what you want by believing in yourself, do the right things then reap the fruit of your labor.

Don’t forget that we are making our own fortune, be positive, work hard and you commit yourself to success. Learn to be more confident and trust your instinct.

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Love Knows No Distance

When do you have the luxury time together with your love ones? Is your long distance affair headed toward the same sorry fate? Do you think long distance relationship works?

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According to majority that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but many casualties of long distance relationship would beg to disagree and I can attest to that as well.

Missing someone get easier everyday because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will. The best and most beautiful things that cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart. As the days go by, the memories remain.

In a relationship, you want to be the priority but you have to consider as well the responsibility of the person you loved to their family because doubts can build and cause a whole lot of problems and jealousy can often be a figment of your imagination.

I do believed that finding a destined match (the right one) isn’t easy, sometimes you are blinded with the charming heartthrobs that keeping your attention away but by then, you are building your own experience by becoming into a strong, wise, sweet and lovable individual.

Way back 2007, I met this guy; he is my friend and colleague, I am three years older than him. Who would thought that the guy I’m talking everyday will become part of my life and fill the empty space of my heart to find true happiness despite of my stressful workload?

We started as friends and something happened inside us. He wanted me so long not as friend but he is hesitant maybe he gets busted. I think it was a love that came without warning, I was so blown away and all the good things he says never leaves my mind even I have million things to worry about.

Our relationship started and I cannot explain why I loved him as well but all I know that I want to see him always and I am enjoying his company. We are inseparable to the point that, everybody recognized the changes between the swift.

However, we both aware that relationship between colleagues are prohibited in our company, which means we need to choose whether he stay and I resign or the other way around. Despite of the consequence, our relationship gets stronger and bloomed and we decided to resign.

He is very responsible and he is the bread winner of his family after the death of his father. I got worried after we resigned because he needs to find an alternative job immediately because there is a family waiting for his support.

Our plan was to move to another city where my friends (my former students) are working but since he signed job for six month contract, I have to move first then he will just follow after. I have to establish first in a new place and find a work as well so that just in case he needs my help I have some to spare.

Our relationship is very open. It was hard to be far away of the one you love but when you think the purpose of doing so; you will feel very grateful.

Even we are a perfect couple but we are not in a perfect situation. For anything worth having one must have to pay the price – always work patience, love and self-sacrifice. No great love ever came without great struggle. We never missed to call everyday and tell our different problems, we focus to our work and wait until the day we will meet again.

We kept holding on our promises, thus distance is not the hindrance at all and for the record, we are now engaged and waiting for our momentous wedding early next year.

It is normal that sometimes we are upset but when you hear the voice of the one you love sincerely asking for an apology and understanding, then your heart gradually melt and things fall in place again. I believed those are spices of a relationship, there might be worst but you will not be given a problem if you cannot handle to solve.

If we fail to give the best of our personal self and undivided time to those who really important to us; then one day we will regret it.

Communication is very important in a long distance relationship. Distance doesn’t matter if you really love the person, what matters most is the honesty and trust for that relationship to work out. 

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